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Each
single individual wants to feel important and appreciated. It's actually innate and right to have those feelings. Take my mum for
instance, she like bestowing herself the title Mama G, which she first heard
about a decade ago while watching a certain Nigerian film where the main star
or could it be the villain was named so. As for my mum, she prides in being the
mother of university graduates, which is not a mean feat given that all her children
post-secondary have graduated (none with the coveted First class though) and
that is enough to make her feel like the woman she should be. The jobs her progeny have are still entry level though, so she does not receive so much from them at the end of the month.
Sometimes
back, I usually wondered why she loved such designation which vary depending on
the occasion. I would occasionally get embarrassed on her behalf when she would blubber such entitlements when we held ceremonies but not anymore. She was lethal in her hey days, yet still many found it easy to
live with her because of her motherly nature. Albeit she was austere, there are certain elements of leniency when you did well in something and she would be
very proud. Like she knew it was not easy passing exams, so if you did well,
she first hugged you, ensured a fowl was prepared and you got new Garissa Lodge attires. Bingo!
Everyone
wants to feel appreciated and important. We admire those who are doing well and
wish we would be given a chance to be in those shoes. What we sometimes forget
is that bit where the struggle was such a pain in the neck but they still
developed thick skin amid frustrations and failure. Everyone goes through
periods of torments. It is what you learn from the lesson that is important.
You either have to change or if you fluff in conforming, then there is that
regret bit.
There
is a book I decided to read on how to influence people because success can only
come through people. School knowledge and all else is not as important as
having the interest of people at heart. This does not mean that the skill is
innate. To some it is, to others it is like the proverbial quote which goes ‘Hard
work beats talent when talent fails to work hard.’
It’s
high time I started gathering honey. There was an online psychometric test I did and realized that I am
mindful so much about other people. To be precise, my main superpower was being
an advocate; simply put, I am selfless, giving and professional which I can use
to delight my clients and customers consistently. All I therefore need to do is
to balance my own needs as well as meeting those the people around me.
There is also this networking aspect in my traits
according to the test. That I know how to call and stay meaningfully connected to
with everyone. All I need to do is to add three influential people in my
connection and plan how to build a meaningful relationship with them.
I am feeling like a victor already. I never knew am
this charming a persona. I wanted to eschew penning about my pitfalls because they constitute
what is negativity. The results relayed that I need to develop more drive, determination and ambition to
achieve by being resilient, persistence and having strength of the mind (Jeez, kwani I am this week in spirit).
I need to continue digging it (This phrase got me excited after watching Angry Birds the movie) to find my true
grounding when it comes to character. That’s because there are things only
others know about you that you never know. I never made past the psychometric
test but it has reawakened my determination in that which I do. While they may
have wanted other traits of independence and resilience, one thing is for sure,
I have a charming persona which I will not kill any time soon.
Hasta La Vista Baby.
[Picture Source: Pixabay]
